Why AI Feels Like a Good Listener – But Isn’t a Therapist

Hi, I’m Dr. Tom McDonagh, a psychologist at Good Therapy SF. Let’s talk about why AI can sound like it gets you and why that’s not the same as real support.

AI is designed to mirror human speech patterns. That means it can reflect empathy, validation, and insight, but it’s trained on millions of examples of those things.

But here’s the catch: it’s not actually relating to you. AI does not know your context, your history, or your triggers. It’s responding based on probability, not a personal connection.

Real therapy means being seen by a person who holds you in their mind. A therapist builds a relationship with you over time, holds you accountable and gently challenges your blind spots.

So if you find this information helpful and you want to talk to a real person reach out to us here at Good Therapy sf.